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Message from Pat - Leadership Presence

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Message from Pat - Leadership Presence

"It's hard to lead a cavalry charge if you think you look funny on a horse."

~Adalai Stevenson


Leader by Luxamark

by Luxamark


I often hear people talk about how someone needs to have more "Leadership Presence" and some have actually compared this presence to charisma. Presence, to me, is having the ability to authentically connect with others in order to inspire them to achieve a desired outcome. Charisma, on the other hand, can be one element of Leadership Presence, if self-knowing is a part of it. I do not think you need charisma to have presence. I think "presence" is something you can learn while "charisma" is something you are born with.

"Some people have a head start; they have a natural predisposition to being good with people," says Sean Kavanagh, CEO of the Ariel Group, "But, like everything in life, it can be taught. There's emotion and passion in all of us. You just need to learn how to bring it out."

Leadership Presence is about putting the focus on those you lead. It is about connecting with them and building lasting relationships.

Learning Leadership Presence is not about changing who you are, but developing yourself authentically in your own unique style. Being more authentic allows you to be more open. This allows you to access a broader range of skills, stories and assets that will allow you to flourish in many different situations. It allows you to change your role depending on the circumstances.

In taking a look at how people develop Leadership Presence I have found several things in common.

  • It combines power with humility
  • It is about authenticity and strong communication skills
  • It is about how a leader finds how everyone involved can benefit from working together
  • It's about relationships and connections; expressing emotions
  • It is about self-knowledge
  • It is about being totally present in the moment, highly focused and non-distracted
  • It's about knowing your values and living accordingly
  • It is about the "We" not the "Me"
  • It's about communicating your vision, mission, passion and purpose
  • It requires self-assurance and self-knowledge
  • It's about shining the spotlight on others

"Leadership isn't about doing, doing, doing. Leaders remind other people what's important."

~ Bill McCarthy

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Leadership "PRES"

Leadership by Dunechaser

By Dunechaser

Leadership Presence can be cultivated. Belle Linda Halpern and Kathe Lubar of The Ariel Group wrote a book titled Leadership Presence, in which they outline the PRES model. To develop your own presence, consider these aspects:

P - Being Present. Being "present" means being fully focused on what's going on in the time and space you're occupying, so that you're able to respond to whatever happens, however unexpected it may be.

R - Reaching Out. Leaders must listen to others and build authentic relationships. Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in reaching out to others in a genuine and effective way.

E - Expressiveness. Use your words, your body language, and the tone and rate of your speech to express your message, and ensure that each of these routes for communication is congruent with the others. We've probably all seen someone who shakes his head in a "no" gesture while saying, "What a great idea," or a manager who stands in front of a group to announce an "exciting new initiative with lots of opportunities for us to do well," while her body is slumped and her voice is halting and quiet. Harness the power of communication and express your message clearly.

S - Self-knowing. Effective leaders tend to be self-aware, authentic regardless of situation or circumstance, and guided by core values and priorities. Bill George uses the analogy of True North in his book of the same title. A leader who knows her True North and acts accordingly will exhibit a stronger presence than one who shifts based on context.

Practice using "PRES" when you speak over the next few days or weeks. Notice how you feel and how others respond to you. Notice where you feel comfortable and where perhaps you need additional practice. And notice, most importantly, the effect your presence has on your leadership.

by Julie A. Fleming

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