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Message from Pat - Authenticity

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Message from Pat - Authenticity

"How desperately difficult it is to be honest with oneself.  It is much easier to be honest with other people."

~Edward F. Benson

To be authentic is defined by to be trustworthy, honest, genuine, real. It is a particular way of dealing with the external world, while being faithful to our internal selves and our ideas rather than external influences and ideas.

The word originated in the early 1300's from the Latin autheniticus meaning "one who does things himself".

Some of my work involves coaching emerging leaders. These are leaders who are new to their specific leadership position and the primary work with these leaders is to help them find their own leadership style while being fully authentic. Being real.

According to Eric Fromm, behavior is considered to be authentic if it results from a personal understanding of its drives and origins, rather than merely from conformity with the perceived wisdom of the society.

Light Walk by H. K

Light Walk by H. Koppdelaney

It's not easy being authentic in today's world. It is a difficult state to achieve due to the social pressures that surround us to "fit in", "be like...", and "live like...".

Not being authentic means projecting a persona that conflicts with your true character. This is like putting on an actor's mask and playing a different character than the one that is truly you. It shows up in your not saying what you feel. You may project a "know it all" persona, while in reality you need to learn so much more. You may have a continuously reproachful air when in reality you have a soft disposition. You may be a leader who believes in showing no emotions when you really have a tender and kind heart. There are numerous ways we mask our authenticity.

What a tragedy to live behind this type of mask. We can go through our entire life not knowing we wear a mask, or fearful of removing it as people will see the true person behind it.

Authenticity requires continuous self-exploration and self-knowledge. This is a lifelong process as we are always changing. This self-exploration alters our relationships with other people. People like us to stay the way we are. Changing is hard, but once we begin the journey of self exploration, there is no going back to being inauthentic.

The most dynamic leaders we have are those who lead by their core values and make known who they want to be in the world and what legacy they want to leave. This type of leader is consistent in their behavior regardless of what situation they find themselves in.

"To contact the deeper truth of who we are, we must engage in some activity or practice that questions what we assume to be true about ourselves." ~A. H. Almaas

You may get people to respond to a request (especially if their pay is involved); but only when you establish deep, human, emotional connections with people will they go out of their way to accomplish the difficult tasks needed to get exceptional results. If you're not authentic, you're less likely to establish those connections.

Authenticity is a state of being. You can't fake it and don't ever try to. People will know.

Here are a few questions to reflect on when taking a look at how you are being authentic:

  • Who was your childhood hero and why?
  • Who had the greatest impact on you as a leader and in what ways?
  • What past mistakes have impacted you for the better as a leader?
  • What do you most want to be remembered for as a leader?
  • What is the legacy you want to leave?
  • What advice could you most use right now as a leader?
  • When is leadership fun for you?
  • What was your very first leadership experience?
  • What skills are you still using that you learned from this experience?

Meditation by by H. Koppdelaney

I'm not talking about anything new here. Authenticity has been a source of leadership throughout history. Socrates stated, "the unexamined life is not worth living." A Roman statesman once said, "A good speech is a good man speaking well," meaning that the audience needs to perceive the speaker as authentic.

The art of leadership is the art of simply being you. Communicate your authenticity with passion in all situations and it will bring you many rewards throughout your career and your life.

"We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity." ~Barbara de Angelis

Step into leading and play a Bigger Game in your life...don't wait...model leadership...the World needs us to do this.

Lead strong!


10 Things That Authentic Leaders Do

Girl jumping by Phoen

Girl jumping by Phoen

What would your life look like if you had absolutely no fear? What kinds of things would you do if you lived from a frame of reference that your thoughts literally could form your world? How brightly would your light shine if you stepped out of the limitations that are keeping you small and stretched yourself well past your comfort zone into the place that you know, deep within, you are meant to be? Authentic leadership is all about being the person you know in your heart you have always been destined to be. Authentic leadership does not come from your title or from the size of your paycheck. Instead, this form of leadership comes from your being and the person that you are.


Here are 10 things that authentic leaders do by Robin Sharma.

Hot Links!

  • Amilya Antonetti's, founder of Soapworks, bringing authentic leadership to her vision to bring human and earth friendly choices to mainstream America.

  • Just for fun: Serious Play. Tim Brown, CEO of the "innovation and design" firm IDEO. On Creativity and Play (we need more authentic leaders to bring this to the workplace)



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"Quote For Your Day!"

"That inner voice has both gentleness and clarity. So to get to authenticity, you really keep going down to the bone, to the honesty, and the inevitability of something."

~Meredith Monk

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Until next time, I wish you joy and fun and ease and effortlessness!

Pat Obuchowski
CEO, Chief Empowerment Officer

Helping people step into their roles as leaders in their businesses, their communities and the world. Helping people and organizations find their "Bigger Game™".

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