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Message from Pat - Resiliency

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Message from Pat - Resiliency

"It is said an eastern monarch once charged his wise men to invent a sentence, to be ever in view, and which should be true and appropriate in all times and situations. They presented him with the words, 'And this, too, shall pass away.' How much it expresses! How chastening in the hour of pride! How consoling in the depths of affliction!"

~Abraham Lincoln

Resiliency is the ability to bounce back from adversity. Dictionary.com defines it as springing back; rebounding; returning to the original form or position after being bent, compressed, or stretched; recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant.

Rubberband heart by Jen (prgringa54)
Rubberband heart by Jen

I imagine resiliency to be like a rubber band. It can stretch and stretch and when you let it go, it returns back into its original form. The difference is, is that even though we cannot see it, the rubber is a little bit different. Its form is slightly different because of the stretching. So, even though it looks exactly the same, it is changed. Forever.

And so it is with us as humans. The central process in building resilience is for us to develop coping skills. These skills can be outwardly focused on the problem (problem-solving), inwardly focused on emotions (emotion-focused) or socially focused, such as emotional support from others.

Resilient individuals are more inclined to see problems as opportunities for growth. Resilient individuals seem not only to cope well with strains and stressors but actually to experience such challenges as learning and development opportunities.

"Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit."
~Bern Williams

James Neill defines the characteristics of resilient people as:

  • Ability to "bounce back" and "recover from almost anything"
  • Have a "where there's a will, there's a way" attitude
  • Tendency to see problems as opportunities
  • Ability to "hang tough" which things are difficult
  • Capacity for seeing small windows of opportunity and making the most of them
  • Have deep-rooted faith in a system of meaning
  • Have a healthy social support network
  • Has the wherewithal to competently handle most different kinds of situations
  • Has a wide comfort zone
  • Able to recover from experiences in the panic zone or of a traumatic nature
rubberband ball by ash
Rubberband ball by ash

Here are some questions to ask yourself to strengthen your resiliency:

  • What does resiliency mean to you?
  • Who do you know that has demonstrated resilience? This may be a family member, a friend, or a public figure. It often helps to look at others who have been resilient.
  • What other times in your life have you demonstrated resilience? When we think of these times, it brings us strength to know "If I made it through that...I can make it through this."
  • What is the lesson that is being presented to me right now? Although we cannot see the why of what is happening, hindsight will help us get clarity.
"When you can't see straight ahead, it's because you're about to turn a corner."
~ Myrtle Reed

Step into leading and play a Bigger Game in your life...don't wait...model leadership...the World needs us to do this.

Lead strong!

Pat


Resiliency: Dynamic Quality

 

Stone Beach after rainfall by Hogne
Stone Beach after rainfall by Hogne

During tough times, it is important to remember that resiliency is a dynamic quality. Resilient individuals demonstrate an ability to step back and demonstrate self-renewal through adversity. The following excerpt by John Dewey (1859-1952), the renowned 20th century American educational philosopher, describes a sense of continuance through self-renewal.

"A stone when struck resists. If its resistance is greater than the force of the blow struck, it remains outwardly unchanged. Otherwise, it is shattered. While the living thing may easily be crushed by a superior force, it none the less tries to turn the energies which act upon it into means of its own further existences... It is the very nature of life to strive to continue in being. Since this continuance can be secured only by constant renewals, life is a self-renewing process."


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Join me for a ½ day workshop and learn how to step into playing a Bigger Game. February 27 in the San Francisco Bay Area. The Bigger Game has proved to be life changing for players around the world, and if you truly embrace the Game Board, it will be for you too. This workshop is challenging, interactive, and fun. At times you'll experience thrill and excitement-all at the same time. We call this the GULP. And it's fun.

Contact me directly for specifics at Pat@inVisionaria.com. More Bigger Game info: TheBiggerGame.com

Contact me directly for specifics at Pat@inVisionaria.com. More Bigger Game info: TheBiggerGame.com


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"Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit."

~Bern Williams

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Until next time, I wish you joy and fun and ease and effortlessness!

Pat Obuchowski
CEO, Chief Empowerment Officer
inVisionaria

Helping people step into their roles as leaders in their businesses, their communities and the world. Helping people and organizations find their "Bigger Game™".

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