May 2008

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Message from Pat - Kindness

Human Relations

Knowing Dorothy

Recommended Reads

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Quote For Your Day

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Message from Pat - Kindness

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."


I've been telling a lot of people lately that I think we as a society currently lack basic human kindness toward each other. It seems we were a lot kinder to each other a mere 10 years ago. I think our full, busy and stressful lives have been a big contributor to our lack of kindness. We just don’t have time for it any more.

I have yet to find anyone who disagrees with this.

I wish someone would.

I think if we were just a little bit kinder to each other, we would all feel better, be less stressed, and feel a bit less isolated.

Kind is defined at the unabridged as:

1. of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person: a kind and loving person.

2. having, showing, or proceeding from benevolence: kind words.

3. indulgent, considerate, or helpful; humane (often fol. by to): to be kind to animals.

4. British Dialect. loving; affectionate.

Quite often I see that infamous bumper sticker "Practice Random Acts of Kindness." I like that concept and yes, I sometimes do pay for the toll for the car behind me, although FastTrack, the automated toll payment system here in the San Francisco Bay Area, has put a slow down to that random act.

So I think random acts of kindness are great, but they are just that... random. What if I actually go through my day consciously choosing to be kind to those whose paths I cross? What if I were to be a kind and loving person? What if all my words were kind words? What if I was considerate, helpful and humane to all beings? What if I was loving and affectionate even in those moments I think someone doesn't deserve my love and affection?

Malcolm Cohan, the founder of The Rocket Ship, has a great tool that helps me to be a kinder person in almost any situation. When I feel my kindness drain from every cell in my being toward someone else, before I react in a negative way, I just say "Totally Cool". That's it. Those are the magic words for me. "Totally Cool."

This gives me that second or two to gather my thoughts and answer the question, "What kind of a human being do I want to be in this situation?"

Try it.

I also challenge you to try for a few days to consciously walk through your life with an intention to be a kind person.

When you are doing this, I hope our paths cross. Wouldn't that be nice to come across a truly kind person when you need one the most?

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." "

~Leo F. Buscaglia

Step into leading and play a Bigger Game in your life...don't wait...model leadership...the World needs us to do this.

Lead Strong!


Human Relations

The six most important words: "I admit I made a mistake."

The five most important words: "You did a good job."

The four most important words: "What is your opinion?"

The three most important words: "If you please."

The two most important words: "Thank you."

The one most important word: "We"

The least most important word: "I"

~ Author Unknown

Knowing Dorothy

During my second year of nursing school our professor gave us a quiz. I breezed through the questions until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"

Surely this was a joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Before the class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our grade. "Absolutely," the professor said. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say hello."

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy. ~Joann C. Jones

Recommended Reads with links to

Hot Links!

  • You Tube clip of the Movie Pay It Forward - talking about changing the world with one simple idea

  • The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation

  • The Kindness Project - The Kindness Project aims to prove that you can have an exponential effect on the spread of kindness around the world. It's simple - when someone does or says something kind, no matter how small, you give them a token. Read more at their site...

"Quote For Your Day!"

"Don't be yourself - be someone a little nicer."

~ Mignon McLaughlin

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Until next time, I wish you joy and fun and ease and effortlessness!

Pat Obuchowski
CEO, Chief Empowerment Officer

Helping people step into their roles as leaders in their businesses, their communities and the world. Helping people and organizations find their "Bigger Game™".

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