Message from Pat - Influencing

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Message from Pat - Influencing

"Who shall set a limit to the influence of a human being?"

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have recently been working a lot with teams on helping to define exactly what Leadership skills, as a team, must be developed to accomplish the goals laid out for them. One theme is consistently coming up for these different leadership teams. That theme is Influencing.

What is influence? According to it is "the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc. of another or others."

I also believe that influencing is about being able to move things forward without forcing or demanding others to do what you want. It is not about having formal power at all.

As I started to observe everyday behaviors around this theme of influencing, I noticed that influencing is needed anywhere we want to make a change.

It is needed in our organizations when we need our team's commitment and extra effort, or when we want to implement strategies and policies successfully. It is especially needed when we want to obtain cooperation and support from our peers over whom we have no authority.

We need influencing skills when working in our community. When we want to impact a change on a non-profit board or community committee we are working with, knowing that our perspective and approach have the possibility of being the best for the organization, you can bet we need influencing skills.

We need influencing skills with our neighbors and friends and family. Who hasn't used influencing skills on their teenager?

Influencing skills seem to be about a combination of good communication, connections with those you are trying to influence, presentation and assertiveness skills, and mostly, finding what works for you and what your style is.

One important key to influencing is that people will listen and be willing to come part of the way if they feel understood and acknowledged. Especially for their differences.

In a study by Cecilia Falbe and Gary Yukl, inspiration is the number one influence tactic. Influence is found to get a 90% commitment and a 10% compliance rate. The next most effective influence tactic is consultation, with a 55% commitment.

So, if you want to influence...inspire!

Step into leading and play a Bigger Game in your life...don't wait...model leadership...the World needs us to do this. Lead strong!


Living an Inspired and Successful Life

Here are 26 alphabetical tips for living an inspired and successful life.

Ask for what you want.
Be who you say you are.
Care about others.
Dare to live your dreams.
Ease through the day.
Find the best fit.
Give to another.
Hug a friend.
Inspire someone to greatness.
Jump over a boundary.
Kick a bad habit.
Leap across a fear.
Mention something uplifting.
Never say never.
Open your mind and heart.
Pursue your innermost passions.
Quit complaining.
Restore your smile.
Set your sights high.
Trust yourself.
Use all the day.
Value everything.
Wait until it feels right.
Xpress yourself.
Yank weeds from your mental garden.
Zoom into the now.

Written by Carol James

With thanks to Fran Briggs for sharing this story -

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  • Healthy Influence is the new way to get what you want . . . with words. This site has some interesting sharing of knowledge about influencing others.
  • Learn more about how to Influence Employees the Right Way. Managers seldom recognize the dramatic impact their actions have on subordinates. The same supervisors who admit they themselves are different under a new manager still minimize the impact they have on those below them. We are often more readily aware of the influence other people have on us than the influence we have on others.
  • Noticing How We Influence Others... A brief overview of how we can notice how we influence others. There is a whole series of videos here that can give you some brief insights into Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP.

"Quote For Your Day!"

"Never run after your hat - others will be delighted to do it; why spoil their fun?"

~Mark Twain

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Until next time, I wish you joy and fun and ease and effortlessness!

Pat Obuchowski
CEO, Chief Empowerment Officer

Helping people step into their roles as leaders in their businesses, their communities and the world. Helping people and organizations find their "Bigger Game™".

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"By Pat Obuchowski of inVisionaria."

Brief Biography:

Pat Obuchowski is the CEO (Chief Empowerment Officer) of inVisionaria. inVisionaria is a company devoted to helping people and organizations find and achieve their vision and their voice. She works with individuals and organizations that are looking for structure, focus and accountability to set and achieve their goals. She also works with people who are ready to make big changes in their businesses and their lives and step into the leaders they've been yearning to be. People who are ready, willing and able to begin playing their "Bigger Game." No kidding. Right now.

The approach to achieve this and create this alliance is individually based and is designed between Pat and each of her clients.


"After the second month (of working with Pat) I started to become more confident in what I was visualizing for my own life from the questions that she would ask me and the "homework" that I had for each week. I am able to truly talk to her about what bothers me or the exciting news I have to share. Each week I became more confident and would start to ask myself the questions I thought she would ask me in order to stay focused."

~ Kristy Rogers
Executive Director,
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