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Message from Pat

"When you stop putting yourself on the line, and you don't touch your own heart, how do you expect to touch other people?"

~Tori Amos

I've been doing a lot of work with my clients lately on courage.  I got very curious around what courage means.

As I turned to the various dictionaries, I found some define courage as lacking fear in a situation that would normally generate it. Others, in contrast, hold that courage requires one to have fear and then overcome it.

I thought the Merriam-Webster Dictionary defined it best:  "mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty."

I believe feeling the fear (and doing it anyway) is an important factor in courage.  I believe fear is the determining feeling that tells you whether or not you are being courageous.  I learned that when I am playing Bigger Games in my life, that feeling of "Gulp!" is a necessary part of being courageous.  If you don't feel that "Gulp!" you are not stretching your courage muscle.  If you don't feel that "Gulp!" you are just doing what you've always done.  As my coach says, it's that feeling of "scary exhilaration."  And watch out, it is a very exciting feeling and can become a bit addictive.

Courage takes action.  Many think courageous acts are big and bold.  I also believe many little quiet things are the ones that are courageous.

When I ask my clients, "What's stopping you from being courageous?" there are many answers.  Peers stop us in our tracks merely by their looks or the shaking of their heads.  Our past experiences put restrictions on our present actions.  Complacency.  Our assumptions about ourselves.  We're not good enough, smart enough, know enough.  Our assumptions about other people…if I do this, they'll react this way.  The vision we hold of ourselves.  Fear of the unknown.  And on…and on…and on…

I believe courage can be learned should you choose to learn it.  Let me put that another way.  I believe courage can be learned should you have the courage to learn it.

What do you wish you had the courage to do?

What's stopping you from being courageous?

What assumptions do you have of yourself…of others…that is stopping you?

If you did that courageous act, what's the worst that can happen?

"Courage is like any other muscle.  It strengthens by use." 
~ Ruth Gordon


Step into leading and play a Bigger Game in your life…don't wait…model leadership…the World needs us to do this.

Lead strong!


S.N.A.P. out of it!

Courage is a personalized concept.  How many of you like public speaking?  Not many, but for me public speaking is my favorite thing to do.  People come to me and say 'How can you be so courageous.'  For me, public speaking is not a courageous thing, it's the most energizing thing I can do.  Since courage is a personal concept, that is why we think we're not courageous. 

The acronym I use when faced with a courageous situation is taken from a quote by the management guru, Cher, says "Snap out of it!" 


Stop:  Stop and breath.  Get rid of your physical responses.  Step back from your biases and assumptions about yourself and others and get under control.

Notice:  Ask yourself what is the real objective.  Ask yourself: "What's the best thing that can happen?"  Expect to be uncomfortable.  If you feel uncomfortable, you're doing something right.

Act: Just do something.  Even if you decide not to act, you've acted.   Make a decision and carry out your decision. 

Praise yourself and focus on process.  The success of risk taking is not based on the outcome.  It is based on the process.  You must focus on what works, what didn't work and what will we do differently next time.  It is about the work not about us.

Excerpted from Cindy Solomon presentation "Creating the Career and the Life You Want."


Tomorrow I'll dream up
and strength;

there's too much to think

s.j. goldner

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Pat Obuchowski
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Helping people step into their roles as leaders in their businesses, their communities and the world. Helping people and organizations find their "Bigger Game™".

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Brief Biography:

Pat Obuchowski is the CEO (Chief Empowerment Officer) of inVisionaria. inVisionaria is a company devoted to helping people and organizations find and achieve their vision and their voice. She works with individuals and organizations that are looking for structure, focus and accountability to set and achieve their goals. She also works with people who are ready to make big changes in their businesses and their lives and step into the leaders they've been yearning to be. People who are ready, willing and able to begin playing their "Bigger Game." No kidding. Right now.

The approach to achieve this and create this alliance is individually based and is designed between Pat and each of her clients.


"Coaching with Pat allows me to take the opportunity to look at myself and the way I interact by stepping outside of where I am and thinking more about how I have impacted my people. Pat has reminded me about skills I have developed over the years, however forgotten to use them. She has brought a breath of excitement into my position and I truly enjoy having her as my coach!" 



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