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Message from Pat

"Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity; they seem more afraid of life than of death."

- James F. Byrnes

If we want change in our lives, we must leave some of our comfort zones.

Comfortable, as defined by the Merriam Webster Dictionary is: affording or enjoying contentment and security; free from vexation or doubt; absence of anything likely to cause physical or mental discomfort. Comfortable applies to anything that encourages...complacency as well as physical ease.

Comfort Zone is defined as: the level at which one functions with ease and familiarity.

Comfort zones bring us ease and comfort. They're the things we do over and over that encourage physical ease and security. They are the limits that we unconsciously impose on ourselves to avoid feeling uncomfortable. They're our habits.

Pursuing our comfort zones is a natural and normal human tendency. We like things to be the same. We like the security and the knowingness of this in a world that seems a bit (or a lot) crazy and insecure.

Comfort zones do become a challenge for us when they put us to sleep. When we stay in this arena of 'unconscious competence' it feels safe. It feels easy.

There are four types of comfort zones:

  • Habit Zone: Work late, work often; Staying with what is familiar; Doing it all yourself; Obsess or worry.
  • Indulgence Zone: Me first; Caffeine; Overeating; getting too tired.
  • Emotional Safety Zone: Don't ask for help; Avoid hurting others feelings; Being right; Withhold comment for fear of being disliked or seen as inadequate or wrong.
  • Pain Avoidance Zone: Avoid telling someone something hard; Prefer email to phones; Avoid dentist or doctor.

"Safety first" has been the motto of the human race for half a million years; but it has never been the motto of leaders."

- Anonymous

To play a Bigger Game and risk stepping into who you really are as a Leader requires that you examine those comfort zones that are holding you back. Last month I wrote about Compelling Purpose. Your compelling purpose must be strong enough to pull yourself out of your comfort zones.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself when examining your comfort zones:

  • Who or what do you avoid?
  • Whom do you treat with indifference or as irrelevant?
  • Where do you withhold the truth or be less than straight forward?
  • How/where do you give up your power?
Just take a look and notice those comfort zones that no longer work for you...and then...step out!

"When you have come to the edge of all the light you know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: there will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught how to fly."

- Faith by Patrick Overter

Step into leading and play a Bigger Game in your life...don't wait...model leadership...the World needs us to do this.

Lead strong!



Most of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once we reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now, this fork can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder that decision-making can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the middle of the night, or make us break out in a cold sweat.

Making life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war.
Conflicting armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons
battling each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions, whether bold or timid, well thought out or impulsive, can either set the course of action or blind it.

I don't have much advice to give you about decision-making except this: whatever you do, don't camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It's far better to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.

- By Jim Rohn (


"I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or your heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things you do might as well be turned over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly. I am easily managed; you must merely be firm with me.

Show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great men; and alas, of all failures as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures. I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a man. You may run me for profit or run me for ruin; it makes no difference to me. Take me, train me, be firm with me and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who am I? I am Habit."

- Anonymous


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Upcoming Workshop Offerings

Bigger Game Workshop: Has something been calling you? Maybe a whisper, a tug or a knowing there is something bigger waiting for you...possibly something your soul has been craving. The Bigger Game is a dynamic interactive workshop that naturally calls the better you yet to be expressed. In this workshop we will explore and define the elements required to actually be IN a Bigger Game. Our objectives in working together are:

To clearly define the elements of The Bigger Game Model.
Have you learn what it means to be a Bigger Game Player
Have you explore your own personal Comfort Zones and potential Bigger Game
Outline the process of setting up a Bigger Game strategy, so that you are experienced enough to meaningfully move into bold action around your Bigger Game.
Connect you with other Bigger Game Players.

Come let your Bigger Game Player come out to lead and experience the fun and excitement of having a Bigger Game to Play.

Oct 20-22 in the San Francisco Bay Area. For more information see: 

To register contact me at or 650-245-0321.

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"You can't have it all. Where would you put it?"

- Steven Wright

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Until next time, I wish you joy and fun and ease and effortlessness!

Pat Obuchowski
CEO, Chief Empowerment Officer

Helping people step into their roles as leaders in their businesses, their communities and the world. Helping people and organizations find their "Bigger Game."

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"By Pat Obuchowski of inVisionaria."

Brief Biography:

Pat Obuchowski is the CEO (Chief Empowerment Officer) of inVisionaria. inVisionaria is a company devoted to helping people and organizations find and achieve their vision and their voice. She works with individuals and organizations that are looking for structure, focus and accountability to set and achieve their goals. She also works with people who are ready to make big changes in their businesses and their lives and step into the leaders they've been yearning to be. People who are ready, willing and able to begin playing their "Bigger Game." No kidding. Right now.

The approach to achieve this and create this alliance is individually based and is designed between Pat and each of her clients.


"What a gift it is to have Pat Obuchowski as a Premier Coach of eWomenNetwork! She's smart, solution oriented and a joy to work with."

- Kym Yancey, President, eWomenNetwork


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